Contacting an old flame?

[eastbill]

i contacted an old flame and have become very good friends... she is married now... but we can stillbe good friends. her husband is a good guy.

[CK1]

the way i see it is simple. if you don't try to contact her and talk to her, you will always wonder what could have been. even if you don't get a response, at least you know you tried. and maybe she will want to continue the friendship, maybe it will lead to more, maybe it won't but at least you will not have that nagging voice in the back of you head asking "what if..."

[laranger]

Originally Posted by CK1

the way i see it is simple. if you don't try to contact her and talk to her, you will always wonder what could have been. even if you don't get a response, at least you know you tried. and maybe she will want to continue the friendship, maybe it will lead to more, maybe it won't but at least you will not have that nagging voice in the back of you head asking "what if..."

Winner!!!!

[mart]

Originally Posted by CK1

the way i see it is simple. if you don't try to contact her and talk to her, you will always wonder what could have been. even if you don't get a response, at least you know you tried. and maybe she will want to continue the friendship, maybe it will lead to more, maybe it won't but at least you will not have that nagging voice in the back of you head asking "what if..."

If only it was that easy. I parted from my partner quite a few years back due to a bad accident i had at work. Which left one side of my face deformed we parted on reasonably good terms it wasn't easy for her nor me. I kept her phone number and for the last year or so i've wanted to give her a call. But i just can't do it. I've actually dialed the number just to hear her voice then hung up. I can't understand why i can't talk her even just to say hello. I'd like her to come back but it's not knowing how she feels now.

[laranger]

Originally Posted by mart

If only it was that easy. I parted from my partner quite a few years back due to a bad accident i had at work. Which left one side of my face deformed we parted on reasonably good terms it wasn't easy for her nor me. I kept her phone number and for the last year or so i've wanted to give her a call. But i just can't do it. I've actually dialed the number just to hear her voice then hung up. I can't understand why i can't talk her even just to say hello. I'd like her to come back but it's not knowing how she feels now.

Perhaps the fear of being rejected again??

[mart]

Originally Posted by laranger

Perhaps the fear of being rejected again??

I don't think i was rejected the first time Laranger, but i know what you mean. We did part as friends and now i'm thinking as she hasn't phoned me over the years. So i guess that may be the answer as she's moved on. I just feel a little sad without her sometimes.

[danielle_ftv]

I totally think you should go for it. Who knows, you guys might still have some chemistry there.

[Seth]

Thanks for all the opinions guys. I decided y'all were right, so I've made contact

[mart]

Originally Posted by danielle_ftv

I totally think you should go for it. Who knows, you guys might still have some chemistry there.

Thank you for the encouragement Danielle. I aim to phone her soon, wish me luck.

Good luck Seth hope it works out.